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As she lay dying from pancreatic cancer, Nurse Martha Keochareon wanted to do more than plan her funeral. So she called her alma mater and offered to become a “case study” for nursing students. She reasoned she could help students learn about the dying process while, at the same time, it would be a way for her “to squeeze one more chapter out of life.”
I loved this story. First, as a retired nurse educator, I was struck by Nurse Keochareon’s selfless giving. I could identify with her desire to teach; as nurses we are taught, along with being caregivers, to be teachers (as well as communicators, researchers, leaders and more). I believe we consider it a duty and a privilege to empower our patients or students with the resources they need to function successfully in their lives.
Second, Nurse Keochareon had lived with pancreatic cancer for more than six years. Her story of this unusually long experience would have been of great interest to me because my brother died from that type of cancer in less than a year. What did she know about her prognosis from the beginning? What type of treatments did she have? What quality of life did she have during that long period of time?
And third, I love how she expressed the personal benefit she would get out of sharing her story with nursing students: “to squeeze one more chapter out of life.” For anyone, writer or reader, who enjoys books, just muse about this phrase for a minute…to squeeze one more chapter out of life.
Let’s rephrase that into a question we can ask ourselves: If I had one more chapter to squeeze out of my life, what would I want to write in that chapter? Based on the “to do” list I compiled recently on a beach chair in Aruba, I have at least ten things to cram into that chapter. And that’s just for starters.
What about you?
Read Nurse Keochareon’s story, featured in the January 11, 2013 New York Times.
I have worked in hospice nursing and some of my greatest “teacher patients” were those facing a terminal illness. I remember a visit to one man years ago. He just wanted to talk. So I sat in a chair by his bed, casually propped my stockinged feet on his covers (such un-nursing like behavior!) and we talked and talked. Or rather, I did alot of listening. He simply wanted some normalcy….not a clinical nursing visit. It was one of the most therapeutic visits I made that week. Thank you for sharing this story. I will tuck this idea away…should I ever face terminal illness, I would consider doing the same as this most amazing “teacher nurse.”
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Love your story, Jane. A touching experience of providing normalcy!
I know I often felt I learned more from my students than I taught them. Rewarding.
This story made me think about doing this also if I’m ever in this situation. I think we nurses can’t help but teach,so teaching until the end would be in our DNA.
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Jane, what a great example of evaluating the needs of your patient and meeting those needs. A great story to show what we really do as nurses. I bet your patient felt so much better in talking with you than having clinical procedures done for him.
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“What we really do”–a key phrase!
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I saw this story and thought as you did, Lois, what a selfless act for Martha Keochareon to share her dying with students. And yes, it is not that surprising since we nurses are always teaching. Even at the end of our lives.
Mmmm. What would I write/do if I just had one more chapter in my life? I will ponder this.
Thanks for posting this poignant story.
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Thanks! I never tire of reading stories about nursing at its best. Writing your last chapter right now includes finishing your book!
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I, too, admire Martha’s openness in dealing with her disease and the end of life process. It’s not easy to allow the world to observe your physical decline. But how wonderful to be an example of emotional and spiritual giving.
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Thanks, Lois. So true.
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Reblogged this on Marianna Crane and commented:
Lois Roelofs posted this story of Martha Keochareon, a nurse dying of pancreatic cancer who selflessly allowed nursing students to be present during her last days at home in order to learn about hospice care.
I hope this poignant story moves you as much as it did me.
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