Did you know that “the monotony and solitude of a quiet life stimulates the creative mind”? Albert Einstein said that, and I can attest that it’s true.
During the last three months after surgery, I spent a lot of time alone in my living room sitting on a new recliner. The longer I sat, the more I convinced myself that the room needed a change. I noted that I was sitting in a combination living room/kitchen painted a nondescript pale gray. The carpeting was the same gray. The new recliner was a similar gray. Many of my comfy clothes were shades of gray. And to complete the nondescript gray environment, the computer on my lap was silver.
Staring past the grayness into my backyard with its flowers and trees losing color by the minute forced me into a creative mode. My mind danced into thoughts of changing the color of my walls. I implored my daughter to pick up paint samples for me in shades of blue and gray that would contrast with, but still complement, the colors in the rest of my home.
I guess I asked for her help and advice one too many times. On day she announced, “I don’t want to be a part of your painting project. No. Nada. I don’t want to get one more paint sample for you; I don’t want you to ask me one more time about which one I like best; I don’t even want to hear the word paint from you.”
Well. What was I to do? Confined to my home with my grayness? It was time to ask a professional. I searched online and found an interior designer whose promo video portrayed an older woman named Lois. A sign, right?
I called. He came. And in twenty minutes he suggested a totally different color. So then I found a painter who, in five hours, transformed my living room/kitchen from the nondescript gray to Sherwin Williams Griffin, a medium griege. In other words, a rich creamy mocha.
I love it and would never have thought of it on my own. It’s soft, warm, and comforting.

But you know how projects grow. It now includes a new TV and will include new window treatments. When the TV installers came, one man asked why I was getting rid of it….it was still good. I announced, “I’m done with it.” He knew better than to ask more. He’d not sat here for three months trying to get the news with a remote with too many buttons and poor connections. My new TV has a miraculous microphone; I simply press the on button, ask the microphone for what I want to watch, and the program shows up.
This week my designer returns and I pick out window treatments. Yay! I believe my current ones are as old as the house—over 15 years.
Upshot? The entire postoperative healing time has turned out, with the help of my designer, to be a most creative time. Alas, it’s also been expensive. But my daughter is relieved that I got help! And my mantra is that I’m 80, so I can do what I want. Agree? Come over for coffee and we can talk about it in my new kitchen.

It looks beautiful!
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Thanks!
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It looks nice, Aunt Lois. I’m glad you didn’t change the light above the table – at least I think you didn’t… I really liked that when I visited there…
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Thanks, Mari. No, that light fixture was new shortly before you came for Marv’s funeral. He had helped hold it yet for the electrician to do his thing in the ceiling.
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I love what you did! and celebrated change at the tender age of 80!!!
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Thank you!
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Hi Lois, I just read this and absolutely love it. You, my friend are truly amazing at how you can take a difficult situation and turn it into an amazing experience. I love the warm colors you have chosen and am sure you are enjoying the newness, warmth and wow, that TV is terrific. I have to agree dealing with all the remotes and trying to remember which, how and why is a real pain. Sounds like it has been a tough several months, but you have moved forward and accomplished so much. Glad to hear you are feeling so much better.
Any plans in the near future to come to Chicago? We have had an incredible fall but I think that is about to end. Today so much fog, cannot see anything outside our window. We do have our east coast and west coast daughters and families coming for Thanksgiving. First time in 3 years we will all be in the same place at the same time. Very excited plus we are lucky enough to have friends in the bldg who will be out of town during the time they are here and have housing for everyone. We decided not to spend the day cooking on Thanksgiving but taking everyone to the U Club late afternoon. Something for everyone and no mess to clean up.
Take care, sending hugs and thanks again for sharing so much of what is happening in your life….
Love, Barb
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Thank you, Barb! All your Chicago news makes me lonesome. I am envisioning the view of the city at night from “my” bed in your lovely guest room! I’m not sure when I’ll come again. I’ll go to AZ for the winter months, but even for that I have to walk better. Still not able to walk on hard pavement very far. It’s really nice you can finally have your family together. I can picture you all at the UClub. Beautiful! Enjoy! Nice to have housing too! I love the community at the Heritage.
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Love it, Lois! Totally agree! Do what you want!
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We could have a great chat at my table! Drop in again sometime at a happier time. The last time you both were so helpful to Marv in his last days. Times like that I’ll never forget!
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Wish we could, Lois! Now would not be a good time since I texted positive for Covid and it seems to be taking its time to move along. But, if we get out that way we will plan a stop to see you………..and your grand dogs🥰
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Oh no! Take care of yourself. Mocha and Latte will wait!
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Decorating is so much fun, glad you are enjoying your new color. Will stop and see you sometime, things should get easier for me, I think, Dave is a permanent resident at Luther Manor. The kids came this weekend and he is now moved to his last home. It has been a very difficult time for me, his memory issues are getting bad at times, pretty normal at times, weakness also an issue.
What a beautiful fall we are having, enjoying everyday!!
See you soon!!
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I know you’ve been so/too busy. I catch your car now and then always on the run. It’s good that Dave has a final resting place. He’s been such a good example of wanting to live. You’ve had your busy schedule with him even longer than I’ve been recuperating. Drop in anytime!
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It looks great, Lois! So happy that the designer was a good fit for you. I had a not so good experience a year ago, although I’m overall happy with our results. We converted our living room/dining room into more of a great room and moved the dining room furniture off of the kitchen. The new space is very comfortable and we also have a new TV with the wonderful voice search feature. New window coverings are now on the agenda. You’ve inspired me!
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Good ! I’m happy to inspire. It’s nice to make changes in our older lives. Perk things up a bit. Good luck with your windows!
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It’s beautiful. I like the color gray, but in small amounts. I work in a building that has gray walls, gray floors, gray furniture, gray cabinets. It’s depressing.
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I agree. Gray in small doses can be cool and peaceful. Too much, however, is cold and impersonal.
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CUTE story, well told!
You’ve got to trust a company that uses a Lois in their promo videos! 😉
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Yes!! We should know, right?!
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Looks good, Lois. Well done following your heart and inclinations. And yes, I agree that at 80 doing what you want is a fine guideline. Reminds me of a former patient, well over 80 at the time, and healthy. She was grumping about eating canned salmon, which she disliked, because it was “heart healthy” I remember telling her that at her age, I was quite sure she wasn’t going to “die young” of heart disease, so eat what she liked.
Ice cream and the colors you enjoy and a TV that works for you. Keep healing!
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Thanks! So true.
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What a fantastic story about unleashing creativity during hard times, Lois. Your enthusiasm leaps from the page. While I’m a bright color lover, I think the mocha color invokes a warm coziness. It’s so essential to make our living space not only livable but alive and attractive.
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Thank you, Evelyn for your complimentary words!
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How exciting! Look at you you just know the right thing to do with the right time. And the room looks great!
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Am having fun doing it. Great diversion.
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