Grief at Twenty-four Months: A Rummage Sale Made Me Do It

On this second anniversary of my husband's death, I've made an unplanned purge of his belongings. Our church's rummage sale, first canceled due to the virus, then reinstated a few months later, prompted me to do it. Just two years and two days ago, Marv directed our daughter to take his cords to our church's …

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Grief at Twenty-three Months: More Writing

As I was approaching this two-year mark of my husband's death, I noticed not all is well yet as I'd hoped. I wasn't expecting the impact of loss to disappear, but I was hoping for fewer experiences of active grieving. This past month, a few members of Marv's family have passed away. That brought grieving …

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Grief at Twenty-two Months: Write Along with Me

Time heals all wounds is a cliché that’s been around a long time.  And disputed as well.  Counselor Worth Kilcrease wrote “time [alone] does not heal all wounds.  A more apt saying is ‘It’s what you do with the time that heals’” (Psychology Today, April 24, 2008). Time is an “active, working process, not a …

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Stay at Home Risk – Leaping Out of Your Comfort Zone

“I’m so glad I’ve been a widow this long,” I tell folks when we talk about what it’s like to stay at home during this virus. “I’ve learned to be alone.” I’m moved to say this because of an acquaintance whose husband just died. I envision her doing the necessary paperwork without any proper closure. …

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Grief at Twenty-one Months: A Fun Memory from a Long Marriage

For the past few weeks, I’ve been sorting, thinning, and throwing away files. Dozens of them. And reminiscing. Yesterday, among my writing files from the early 2000s, I found this dialogue between Marv and me and thought it would be fun to post on a Grief Anniversary.  Fun memories from a fifty-five-year marriage go a …

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