Caregivers: Write Your Stories Now

So, you’ve thought about writing your stories, but you certainly don’t have time. And you have no idea how to start anyway. Excuses.

Last Wednesday at the Palos Heights Public Library (IL), participants in Caregivers Share Your Story learned they could start writing their stories in only ten minutes. Caregivers can include all of us–we all either care for someone or ourselves.

First, they made a list of ten things they thought was important in their caregiving roles. These could be events, feelings, characteristics…whatever came to mind.

Second, they circled the one item that felt most important right then.

Third, they wrote nonstop (called a “free write”) for ten minutes. No thinking, no editing, just keeping the pen moving on the page.

Ten minutes later, each had a rough draft of a story. Something they could go back to some day to revise and refine. But the story was out of their minds and onto the page. Simple.

A photograph of a 2 month old human infant, hi...

A photograph of a 2 month old human infant, his mother, his maternal grandmother, and his maternal great-grandmother.

Do a ten-minute free write every day, and you will have a book length manuscript in no time to revise and refine. Think in the future how your grandchildren will enjoy reading how you gave their grandpa Old Spice every Christmas because that’s what he was wearing the day you met, how you took your temperature daily for years in your effort to get pregnant for their mom, how that new baby nearly drove you over the edge as she  mushed her peas time after time into the crevices of her high chair, and on and on. The little things. The family traditions. The things that make us human. The things that make us family.

I have just a few writings from my folks and maternal grandmother. I wish I had many more. I want to know about their ups and downs. I want to know them better. But once they died, their stories died too.

So, don’t wait. Start now. Write from your heart. Your grandkids will appreciate it…some day.

Next time, I’ll talk about why it’s good (and fun) as a caregiver to write our stories.

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Nurses Week 2012: Florence Nightingale’s Birthday (1820-1910)

Florence Nightingale, also known as the Lady w...

Florence Nightingale, also known as the  Lady with the Lamp, providing care to  wounded and ill soldiers during the Crimean War

You may have more in common with Florence Nightingale than you think! To honor this “founder of modern nursing” on her birthday, I’d like to share  Ms. Nightingale’s view of life as a woman in her Victorian era:

“The morning is spent sitting round a table in the drawing room looking at prints, doing worsted work, reading little books. Everybody reads aloud from their own book or newspaper and every five minutes something is said. The afternoon is passed in taking little drives….when night comes women suffer physically the accumulation of nervous energy which had nothing to do all day and makes them feel every night when they go to bed as if they are going mad.” (*p. 14)

I’m forever thankful that Ms. Nightingale was a feminist before her time, rebelling against her Victorian life and proceeding to blaze the trail of modern nursing.

I can identify with her. I’d be no good sitting around doing handwork… How about you?

*Source: Monica Baly (Ed.). 1991. As Miss Nightingale said… London: Scutari Press.

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Nurses Week 2012: Free Chance to View Nursing Journals!

Here’s an opportunity to peruse an array of nursing journals for free! Scroll through NOW–you may find one or a few helpful to you in your practice. This free offer ends on May 12, the final day of Nurses Week.

Thanks to publishers Wolters Kluwer / Lippincott Williams & Wilkins for this professional recognition during Nurses Week.

 

Nurses Week 2012 / A Nurse Practitioner in Reiki Practice

This image depicts a Reiki treatment in progre...

This image depicts a Reiki treatment in progress.

Jane Van De Velde, nurse practitioner, writes this week on “Once a Nurse, Always a Nurse” on my friend Marianna Crane’s blog. Click to read how Dr. Van De Velde incorporates the skills she’s learned in nursing into her holistic practice of Reiki. And learn more about the healing power of Reiki at her Reiki Share Project site.

Indeed, once a nurse, always a nurse! During this week honoring nurses, I welcome you to join me tonight at Palos Heights Public Library in Palos Heights, IL, 6:30-8pm, to talk about how caregivers of all kinds can share their stories.

Photo Credit: Wikipedia / Author: James Logan; Uploaded by Andy Beer with agreement of author and models.

Caregivers Share Your Stories

Calling all caregivers. At one time or another, each of us has cared for a loved one or paid special attention to ourselves. Nurses Week is next week, an appropriate time for a program at Palos Heights Library that honors all caregivers.
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From the library’s newsletter: Caregivers Share Your Stories – Wednesday, May 9 at 6:30pm
Everyone has been a caregiver to someone at some point in their lives. Meet with retired nurse and author, Lois Roelofs as she explains the process of writing your story. If you’ve already written about your experiences, bring it to share with others. If not, time will also be given to begin writing down your thoughts. Individual readings will be limited to 3 minutes per person. Time for feedback and discussion will follow.

Marv helping others while on a New England tour

Come, write, share! Or just listen. I hope to see some of you there.
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Palos Heights Public Library
12501 – South 71st Street
Palos Heights, IL, 60463
Phone: 708-448-1473

“Got drugs?”

Clean out your medicine cabinets. Dispose of your unwanted or expired medications safely. Take part in the DEA’s take-back program tomorrow, Saturday. Here’s the information:

April 28, 2012

10:00 AM – 2:00 PM

The Drug Enforcement Administration (DEA) has scheduled another National Prescription Drug Take-Back Day which will take place on Saturday, April 28, 2012, from 10:00 a.m. to 2:00 p.m.  This is a great opportunity for those who missed the previous events, or who have subsequently accumulated unwanted, unused prescription drugs, to safely dispose of those medications.

Click here to find a locale close to you.

The Seal of the Drug Enforcement Administration

The Seal of the Drug Enforcement Administration (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

You’ll feel better knowing you are rid of that old stuff and that you’ve done your civic duty by not adding to the contamination of landfills or water supplies!

What ever happenned to wearing white?

Doll in Nursing Uniform

Doll in Nursing Uniform

My first nursing uniform as an aide was a green dress. Starched. With a belt. The next, as a nursing student, was a blue and white striped dress, covered with a white starched apron. And, finally, how good it was three years later as a graduate to wear white–a long-sleeved, knee-length dress with French cuffs. I’d worked very hard to earn wearing white.

That was back in the sixties. I was proud to wear white. I loved looking professional. I didn’t mind the extra laundry. My favorite was made of cotton with a standup collar, short sleeves, and drawstring waist. I bought two, so one would always be clean.

Patients at my hospital knew those of us wearing white with a black stripe on our caps were the registered nurses. The LPNs wore white with a gray stripe on their caps. The aides wore white, but no caps.

Then came the early eighties. The nurses in the hospital where I was working wanted to ditch their caps. An almost sacrilegious request until someone resurrected a study describing the plethora of bacteria that took up residence on nurses’ caps. But if we were to ditch our caps, how would patients know we were the nurses?

The solution? A bright red piece of plastic stating “RN” along the lower edge that served as a backdrop for a picture ID. This pleased the nurses as well as administration and patients. We achieved a smart modern look–I mean, doctors didn’t wear caps, did they? And we had no more worry of  bugs tripping off our caps into patients’ wounds or of bed curtains knocking them askew as we squeezed ourselves into small spaces to give our patients their baths.

By the eighties, I was teaching nursing. My uniform changed to a white lab coat over street clothes, attire I’d never dreamed of as a student. Until around that time, the only professionals wearing lab coats were physicians. I guess you could say I’d arrived.

But you may know what happened then to nursing uniforms. Scrubs. Those baggy tops with drawstring pants in all colors, some even in nursery prints–anything to brighten the pediatric patients’ stay and make nurses look more like entertainers than professional caregivers.

In recent years, patients have spoken up. They have so many people coming in and out of their rooms each day, they can’t tell a nurse from an aide from housekeeping from dietary. So some hospitals are adopting a color code. Yes, you read that right. We will be color-coded much like the socks in your drawer or the jumper cables in your trunk. And nurses vary in their enthusiasm about these new uniform policies. Click here and read: Some Nurses Blue Over Color-Coded Uniform Policy.

I’m wondering, have you ever wondered if that “nurse” in your life is really a nurse? And, what do you think nurses should wear? How would you like to see them identified?

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Caring Lessons is “not just for nurses!” (a letter from a new friend in Lafayette, LA)

Lois,

I was the single woman at [your grandniece's] wedding last fall.  You sat at my table. As a 65-year-old, I quickly find a place to sit rather than stand in high-heels.  I enjoyed our visit at the restaurant.

When [your niece] gave me your book to read, I was quite impressed.  I loved it! Loved it! Loved it!  I enjoyed all the stories.  My hero, of course, was Marvin.  I am sure you wrote the book that way.  I am sorry that I did not get an opportunity to meet him the night of the wedding.

I hope your book does really well. Your story deserves a wide audience. It’s not just for nurses!

My son-in-law is a Nurse Practitioner in Psychiatry in Tucson.  He was just licensed for that field last summer.

A true story that was recently on TV is a book that I read in 2005.  A Smile As Big As the Moon.  The Hallmark channel played it on prime time a couple of Sundays ago and they will re-run it on the Hallmark Channel for a while.  Absolutely wonderful true story.

Perhaps someone will offer to buy the rights to your story. I think it would be great. And maybe Meryl Streep would be cast as Lois!

Why not dream big? I look forward to visiting with you again some day.

Linda Gard

Meryl Streep receiving honorary degree from Ha...

Meryl Streep receiving honorary degree from Harvard University. Harvard Commencement 2010 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Thank you, Linda, for your kind letter and permission to post it. My regalia from the University of Illinois is nearly the same color as the robe and hood Meryl Streep is wearing here. But I have a lovely royal blue velvet tam…after all that work for a doctorate, no mortarboard for me! I’m sure Ms. Streep could play me very well. Probably even an Oscar-winning performance! Dream big…

Writing as a Ministry

One day I was lamenting that I wasn’t giving of myself like I used to do when I was teaching nursing. I felt pretty self-centered spending much of my day sequestered in my study. It was Amy, my volunteer publicist, that corrected me: “You’re writing is your ministry now.”

Writing as my ministry. I’d never thought about it in that way. I’m sure I was too busy learning about the craft of writing to think beyond to the larger purpose.

Two days ago, I wrote about slowing down on promoting Caring Lessons and getting on with the next phase of my life. Part of my rationale was additional affirmation that I read in an essay by Angela Hunt, a prolific writer:

Writing is a job like anything else, neither higher nor lower than the calling of the Christian dentist, minister, teacher, or day care worker. We have to see ourselves as ministers to an unseen audience many months away, and trust that the Lord will place books in the proper hands.

When I read about trusting God “to place books in the proper hands,” I realized I was at a point that I could do this. The initial promotional work for Caring Lessons has been completed.

The whole of Angela Hunt’s essay on life as a published author encapsulated much of what my life has been like since Caring Lessons came out in September 2010. To get inside an author’s head, I urge you to read her essay here. You will feel how strongly her faith influences her as a writer and author.

St. Augustine writing, revising, and re-writin...

St. Augustine writing, revising, and re-writing: Sandro Botticelli's St. Augustine in His Cell (Photo credit: Wikipedia)